Dr. Steve Stephens
Dr. Steve Stephens - How to Build a Great Life
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An excerpt from
Lists to Live By: The First Collection: For Everything that Really Matters


To laugh often and love much;
To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;
To earn the approval of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends;
To appreciate beauty;
To find the best in others;
To give of one's self;
To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition;
To have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation;
To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived...
This it to have succeeded.

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"Right now?" I asked, as the adrenaline pumped through my body and I jumped out of bed. Even though the digital alarm clock read 3:45, I was wide awake.

"I think so," Tami said.

Moments later we were in the car, racing toward the hospital. We were both so excited about being first-time parents, but I also felt some nervousness. As we drove into the hospital's parking lot, I took Tami's hand and said, "Our life will never be the same."

At the time I had no idea how true those words would be. When a couple welcomes their first child into the world, everything is turned upside down. Suddenly you're a family. The rules of life change. You have pressures, feelings, and responsibilities that can seem overwhelming. You now must deal with the care and growth of a little human being. Many new parents aren't sure what to do. Some had good examples of parenting; some didn't.

If only there were a manual that taught us step-by-step how to create a perfect family. But unfortunately such a guide doesn't exist. In fact, perfect families don't exist. We all have our struggles and challenges. Every family—a combination of unique backgrounds and unique personalities—faces unique situations. While there might not be any guaranteed formula to building a great family, there are a number of tried-and-true rules that will help you move in the right direction.

So here are 20 rules that I've found will get every family started in the right direction.

  1. Plan Ahead
  2. Admit Your Mistakes
  3. Find Your Golden Moments
  4. Encourage Them
  5. Have Fun
  6. Get to Know Each Other
  7. Motivate Work
  8. Discipline Fairly
  9. Provide a Great Example
  10. Tell Them You Love Them
  11. Choose Your Battles
  12. Make Your Marriage Great
  13. More Books and Less TV
  14. Escape Together
  15. Cool Down
  16. Manage Your Stess
  17. Fight Kindly
  18. Pray for Them
  19. Create Traditions
  20. Let Go

To find out more about each of these rules, order "20 (Surprisingly Simple) Rules and Tools for a Great Family."

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